Mar 29

Episode 20 I Don’t Wanna!: When Sex Becomes a Chore Part 2

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Some of us hear the word 'Sex' and become insanely uncomfortable. Some hear it and all they can think of is 'yes, please.'

Then there are those where all they can think about is when sex becomes a chore.

Why do we avoid talking about sex like the plague? Why is it one of the most important aspects of marriage is rarely talked about?

Well, this week and probably several more we are going to be hitting a listener question that is way heavy!

Join us for part 2 this week.

 

Mar 22

Episode 19 I Don’t Wanna!: When Sex Becomes a Chore

noSome of us hear the word 'Sex' and become insanely uncomfortable. Some hear it and all they can think of is 'yes, please.'

Then there are those where all they can think about is when sex becomes a chore.Watch Full Movie Online Streaming Online and Download

Why do we avoid talking about sex like the plague? Why is it one of the most important aspects of marriage is rarely talked about?

Well, this week and probably several more we are going to be hitting a listener question that is way heavy!

 

 

Mar 14

Episode 18 You Tha Bomb!: Showing Appreciation When Your Spouse Rocks It

boquet of flowersWhat better way for showing appreciation than to bring a beautiful bunch of flowers? Or maybe for the man in you life it's buying him a tool. Or a back rub.

Or a sensual back rub.....?Watch Full Movie Online Streaming Online and Download

These are all wonderful things and things that need to happen when your spouse has done an especially amazing job on a task or at work or whatever you feel is a job well done.

But why is important to show your spouse appreciation?

In this episode we will discuss:

-What exactly do we mean by your spouse rockin' it?

-Why is it important to show appreciation?

-What benefits from showing your spouse authentic appreciation?

 

Mar 01

Episode 17 She’s the Man: Encouraging Your Spouse to Do What They Love

flexingWomen don't fix cars! Men don't change diapers! Women can't lay tile. Men won't play with the children.

What!? Well, I hope you found a few of these offensive! Why, especially in this day and age, do we dare put restrictions on what men and women can/can't do?

As part of being in a marriage, we should encourage our spouse no matter their likes are.

Trey and I had some fantastic opportunities to practice just this this week.

Please join us this week as we discuss:

-how to encourage your spouse to find something they love to do

-how to encourage your spouse in what they have found to do, especially if it's not gender typical

-how to be the most awesome, sexy spouse ever by helping your spouse while they are doing what they love and letting them know she is the man! Or he!

 

 

Feb 22

Episode 16 Fighting Fairly and Coming out the Winner

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We do fight. Yes, yes it's true. We have been asked in a rather sarcastic ways many times before. In fact, Trey and I believe if you have never fought, that is not a plus. It is good to fight, it means there is communication occurring. Communication is key.

However, their are good ways to fight, and bad ways to fight. I want to say we all know what the bad ways are, but their are possibly some of us who don't . Hitting is bad. It is not a form of communication, it is a form of abuse. Period. Yelling, mmmmm not so great. Once again, that is not communicating. That is someone so desperate to get their point across, they are shouting. No bueno. Passive aggressive. Again, no good. The 'if you really loved me you would  _______," That is trying to get what you want through manipulation and coercion.

But we all have our special moments. Trey and I had some special moments 2 weeks ago. Truly, it was so special and raw, we really didn't even want to talk about it until now. But we are ready.

On this podcast, we are going to talk about the doozie of a fight Trey and I had.

What was it over?

Was it justified?

Most importantly, who won!?!?

There are ways in fighting fairly and coming out a winner.  Find out today!

lollipopsSunshine lollipops! Get it!?

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Feb 17

Real or Perceived: How Do Others See Your Marriage?

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So, in lieu of doing a podcast this week, we are going to do a blog. I promise this won't be a normal occurrence,  but possibility a treat every now and then. And what better way to start things out then a sexy kissing picture?!

No, this isn't Trey and me. Trey can't grow that much facial hair! Ha! I kid. But something interesting happened to us while we went out on our Valentine/birthday date last night that really got me thinking.

Trey and I are a fun couple. We just are. We're loving. We laugh. Loud. Sometimes too loud. We joke. We touch. I really think we are just a pretty cool couple. We are constantly accused of being newlyweds (flattering as far as I'm concerned) but we always just laugh and say we've been together over 10 years and have 4 kids. Other couples are often drawn to us. And please know I don't say this out of bragging or anything in that manner. It's just truth.

So, last night as we were enjoying a very very very needed night out (it was a rough day!) we noticed the couples next to and behind us almost uncomfortably staring. Now, it wasn't the 'seriously, these people are gosh for saking loud' stares, but the inquisitive, thoughtful stares. We shared a few laughs and kind words with the couple next to us. Even sending them a drink they had suggested was good. And it was. They were sincerely shocked and incredibly thankful. The couple behind us kept on joining in on our conversation, making remarks and laughing. We loved it. Were used to it. But it got me thinking, what do others think of us?

By comments such as we must be newlyweds or having an affair (HA!) I'm assuming they enjoy/appreciate our interactions. But it leads me to question, how do people perceive you and your significant other?

Are you the avoidance couple? We know many couples that hardly ever spend a minute of time together during the day. They each wake up, get kids ready, go off to work, one takes the kids to after school events while the other goes to whatever evening meeting they have that day. On weekends, they each go do their enjoyed activities, separately, they go to different Sunday school classes and then have different activities they even do during service. It seems to the outsider as if they are doing whatever they can to not be together. Especially not together alone. They may be married, but they spend more time together with their mailman than their spouse.

Are you living together yet apart couple? You may be together a lot. Maybe you don't have kids, are older or just don't have to work a tremendous amount of time. So, technically, you have tons of time together. But possibly this time is spent watching tv, in separate rooms. One does their crafts while the other does their hobby. Possibly they are both addicted to their computer's or iPhones? Whatever the case may be, to the outsider it seems as if they have very little in common together and live in convenience and not passion.

Possibly your together for the kids. We see this a lot in middle aged couples whose children are getting ready to leave the house. Very very little time is spent together, and if it is it is generally for a kids activity. They are also realizing that they have very little in common except for their children. Yikes. Now suddenly their only common interest is going to be gone. Now what!? Some times these can be a little trickier to pick out. Unlike the avoidance couple, they are often seen together at school events, fundraisers, etc... But their home life is lacking.

And lastly, the married forever couple. This is often in the 25+ years couples. Kids are gone. They may not enjoy each other tremendously, but they've been married so long they don't even mess with making they marriage an awesome one. These are often the people who love to give advice about sticking through the harder stuff and 'take the advice from me, I'm old and wise.' But they are missing passion. It seems to the outsider they are just everyday acquaintances. Not lovers that have been married for 30 years!

I was at the grocery store picking up a few things. The cashier asked me if my husband got me anything for Valentines. I said yes, he just happened to get me some beautiful flowers but we are not always big Valentine people. She agreed and said after 40 years of marriage they don't do anything for much of any holiday. I jokingly said 'but don't you love each other?' (panic not, I know her in passing, she is not a total stranger. Ha.) She stated 'of course we love each other, but the passion is pretty much gone after 40 years.' She said this in a manner that was that is just what happens. NO. No it doesn't have to!!!!

No matter how you slice it, real or perceived, I perceived their marriage as lifeless. She did not speak kindly of her husband. She did not speak fondly of him. In fact, it was almost as if she was speaking about a mole on her arm. It's benign but too expensive to remove. Really?

I want my marriage to be so much more! I want people to see Trey and I think we are newlyweds at 30 years of marriage. It is possible. I have seen glimpses of it in others. Please hear me say that we are not perfect. Trey and I do fight. We do have disagreements. But we settle them and move on. Now we don't come home and have sex every night on the kitchen floor. That might be expected of newlyweds. However, we have something that's even better. We have come to know each others, likes, dislikes, pleasure areas, non pleasure areas and our sex is SOOOOO much better than it was when we first got married. People perceive us as a fun, sexy, loving couple.

I love it.

How are you perceived. You may be telling everyone that your marriage is fantastic. There are no problems. You love each other.Blah blah blah. A dog can call himself a cat all day long, but everyone that sees him knows he's a dog. People aren't dumb. Unless of course their marriage isn't any better and they're in denial as well.

So tell us, how do you want your marriage to look to others? How do you want your children to feel about marriage. They are getting their foundation from you.

Feb 01

Let’s Eat Cake!

As of y'all can see, their is no audio  to our post. Well, their is a good reason for that. We didn't record any. To be quite honest, we are going out of town and I am making a ginormous cake and well, it just didn't happen. I feel like a butt. However, we will return next week with the recording of Episode 15. 

Thank you all for being such awesome listeners and hopefully being understanding...... Y'all have a great weekend! 

I'll attach pictures of the cake I made next week to prove to you guys how very hard I worked on it. I used to teach cake decorating and on very special occasions, like my grandmother's 80th birthday, I'll break out the decorating skills.

Jan 24

Episode 14 I’ll Be There For You: Friends in Marriage

friendsWhat is it about being a married adult and having such a hard time finding friends?

It seems as if one minute you are getting to know someone and then that's the end of it. You look back on talking to them and can't think of any reason why y'all didn't spend more time together!

But the fact is, it is hard making friends as you get older and it seems especially finding friends in marriage.

There are so many things that seem to need to line up in order for their to actually be something beyond just casually talking.

Do you as a family each have kids? Do you like the outdoors or indoors? Sports? What do you do for a living? There really are a lot of extraneous activities that do have to be similar in order for their to be a connection between families.

Bottom line, friends are important. There are just those times where you need someone to vent to other than your spouse.

In this episode we will discuss:Watch movie online The Transporter Refueled (2015)

Why is it so hard to make friends in marriage.

The importance of having friends in marriage.

Some ideas of how to meet families with similar interests.

 

 

Jan 18

Episode 13 Sex Worth Laughing At: The Art of Having Sex When Kids Are Stilll Living at Home

 

kidhidingI know that it has happened to every married couple. It just has. You find yourself caught up in  the mood with your spouse. You make eye contact. It's time.

Just when things are getting really great, you hear the squeak of the floorboards. Blankets are grabbed, alibis are being hastly concocted.

You have been caught in the act!

It is just inevitable that when you have kids that still live at home, you will get caught!

On todays episode, we will discuss :

-Importance of spontaneity and  flexibility

-Be willing and know that sex does not always have to happen in the bedroom

-Once you have kids, sex will be different

-Have a plan and be comfortable talking about sex with your children

-Sex should be fun and funnyWatch Froning The Fittest Man In History (2015) Full Movie Online Streaming Online and Download

Sex is probably one of the most very important times in a marriage. Sex with kids still at home is a tricky and often embarrassing time. But, with the right answers to the right questions, we can take some of the hassel and make sex worth lauging about!

Jan 10

Episode 12 In Or Out: What Kind Of ‘Vert’ Are You? Working With Introvert Extrovert Couples.

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAOn episode 12 of The Marriage Podcast, we tackle the issue of the personality types of introvert extrovert couples. You always hear the phrase of 'opposites attract'

and we know that to be the truth more often than not.

But what happens when that opposite attraction begins to interfere with activities in your marriage? We will discuss today the different levels and spectrum or introversion and extroversion. We will also discuss what an introvert and an extrovert are and how their personality traits are what gives them energy and fills their batteries. We will also discuss how to work together as a couple to find a middle ground that will help meet both of y'alls needs.